Adjustment Bureau

There's no such thing as a perfect relationship. Each and every one of us are bound to experience ups and downs with our mate at some point. Sometimes the two of you can agree to disagree, but most likely this won't happen all the time. Emotions run high, feelings get hurt and disappointment stands at the door and knocks. So what do we do when the roads get rough? Men typically visit the gym, tune into a sports network or hang with their guys as a form of release. When women are going through, you'll find them cleaning, shopping, eating, or leaning on the shoulder of a friend. Retail therapy and treats are some of my favorite things to do any day. Cleaning is always a healthy and productive thing, but spilling the beans is not always the smartest move to make depending on who you confide in.

Question. How many times has someone casually offered their suggestions about what you should, need or better do in your situation? Instead of being an encouraging shoulder to lean on, they become blatantly judgemental & hypercritical. Then there are those that will send you off on blank missions just to sit back and watch you dance. All friends aren't guilty of this crime but there are a great percentage out there that are. Rather than becoming emotionally involved while taking inventory of each and every tit or tat exchanged in your friend's relationship, try being supportive and positively encourage them along the way. Building up an emotional wall with someone you have no direct intimacy ties to is merely a waste of time. Make your friend smile when they cry, keep them calm when they panic, be their strength when they're weak and sometimes just lend your ear when they need to purge emotionally. Sure you can try preaching until you're blue in the face, but it'll get you nowhere and may even cause strain on your friendship. Or maybe you can speak positive affirmations instead and add years to someones life. The true definition of a friend is measured by one who has your best interest at heart and will stand by your side allowing you to grow.